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Dwelling in the Past

fearsToday I woke up late because it is a Sunday. I prefer relaxing and planning my week on this day because from the reckoning Monday to the hopeful Friday, I am usually all over the place trying to make ends meet. As usual, a man is all about effort, will and hard work.

After taking my mug of coffee, I made my way to church to worship Jesus.The vicar wasn’t all smiles as usual. He openly corrected petty mistakes and called on all of us to heed to God’s command.

His topic was about “Dwelling in the past.” He started by asking the congregation, “How long will you keep holding tightly onto those negative thoughts?How long will you continue blaming circumstances for your failure?”

The book of Samuel 16:1-13 SAYS;

1Sa 16:1 The LORD said to Samuel, “How long will you go on grieving over Saul? I have rejected him as king of Israel. But now get some olive oil and go to Bethlehem, to a man named Jesse, because I have chosen one of his sons to be king.”
1Sa 16:2 “How can I do that?” Samuel asked. “If Saul hears about it, he will kill me!” The LORD answered, “Take a calf with you and say that you are there to offer a sacrifice to the LORD.
1Sa 16:3 Invite Jesse to the sacrifice, and I will tell you what to do. You will anoint as king the man I tell you to.”
1Sa 16:4 Samuel did what the LORD told him to do and went to Bethlehem, where the city leaders came trembling to meet him and asked, “Is this a peaceful visit, seer?”
1Sa 16:5 “Yes,” he answered. “I have come to offer a sacrifice to the LORD. Purify yourselves and come with me.” He also told Jesse and his sons to purify themselves, and he invited them to the sacrifice.
1Sa 16:6 When they arrived, Samuel saw Jesse’s son Eliab and said to himself, “This man standing here in the LORD’s presence is surely the one he has chosen.”
1Sa 16:7 But the LORD said to him, “Pay no attention to how tall and handsome he is. I have rejected him, because I do not judge as people judge. They look at the outward appearance, but I look at the heart.”
1Sa 16:8 Then Jesse called his son Abinadab and brought him to Samuel. But Samuel said, “No, the LORD hasn’t chosen him either.”
1Sa 16:9 Jesse then brought Shammah. “No, the LORD hasn’t chosen him either,” Samuel said.
1Sa 16:10 In this way Jesse brought seven of his sons to Samuel. And Samuel said to him, “No, the LORD hasn’t chosen any of these.”
1Sa 16:11 Then he asked him, “Do you have any more sons?” Jesse answered, “There is still the youngest, but he is out taking care of the sheep.” “Tell him to come here,” Samuel said. “We won’t offer the sacrifice until he comes.”
1Sa 16:12 So Jesse sent for him. He was a handsome, healthy young man, and his eyes sparkled. The LORD said to Samuel, “This is the one—anoint him!”
1Sa 16:13 Samuel took the olive oil and anointed David in front of his brothers. Immediately the spirit of the LORD took control of David and was with him from that day on. Then Samuel returned to Ramah.

There are numerous lessons we can draw from this scriptures;

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LESSONS

1. We should learn to move on and stop dwelling on our past like Samuel. Prophet Samuel was grieved by king Saul’s loss of favor before the eyes of God. This prevented him from serving God fully. Past incidences can overshadow our lives and prevent us from listening to the voice of God concerning our lives.

2.We should seek for God’s direction when things seem to get elephant. Instead of Samuel seeking God in prayer, he decided to remain grieved for Saul. It is wise to seek God during time of adversity instead of staying stressed in fear.

3.Adversity and challenges are certain but fear is a choice. We should shun fear and instead focus on respecting the rules of God as He directs us.

4. Fear keeps us from seizing opportunities of a life time. Fear can make us commit murder physically or spiritually by killing other people’s dreams in fear that they might defeat us.

5. Fear not because God repeats the words, “Do not fear” 365 times in the Bible. In the same spirit, we should be encouraged each day of the 365 days of the year with God’s command, “Do not fear.”

6.Fear not. Challenges have to be there.

7.Stand still and see the promises of God.

8.Every experience should propel you to a higher level.

9.We must endure pain in faith because pain is temporary.

HOW TO MANAGE STRESS

1. Learn to forgive.

2.Practice positive self talk.

3.Learn from your mistakes.

4.Exercise.

5.Have fun.

6.Sleep early and wake up early.

7. Breath in deeply to keep your calm.

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5 QUALITIES OF A RESPONSIBLE FATHER

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The world is filled with boys in trousers purporting to be men. Gone are the days of our grandparents and fore-fathers when men were real men. This deadly trend can be traced back to nurturing and upbringing. The boy child has been completely neglected as a result of great effort directed towards empowering the girl child. The result has been the flooding of half-baked men who are not ready to defy the odds to make the world a better place.

However, all hope is not gone. You can always go back to the correct route no matter how far you have gone on the wrong one. Here are the simple qualities of a real man- which majority of men have overlooked;

1. Be a provider

A real man puts family first, always. He’s a selfless man, who lives to please those he cares most about. He’s the kind of man who can work two jobs in his sleep, always has a side hustle in mind to earn more money, and guards his savings with his life. He can’t rest until he knows the ones he loves are okay. He strives for perfection at home and in the office. Work-life balance is very important to him, but if missing time with his beloved ones means a better life for them, he’s always game to put in overtime and take one for the team. Words like “No”, “Can’t”, and “impossible”, are just not in his vocabulary, and when he hears others use them, it only increases his devotion to the task at hand.

2.The rock

His strength keeps his family strengthened at their weakest moments. He isn’t immune to pain or frustration, but he does handle it well, and he knows how to pull himself out of low places, He’s the kind of man who never misses his wife’s call when he knows she needs to get something off her chest, or better, just a friend to be there for her. Speaking of chests, his is always there for his wife to lean on, squeeze, and find comfort in when it feels like only a hug will do.

3. Critical thinker

There isn’t a problem big or small that he isn’t itching to solve. He’s a quick, solid thinker, who hates to be backed into a corner. He doesn’t just see the problem in front of him; he sees a road-map of the many solutions available to him and takes his time as he determines the best way to get there, or the course of action he must take. He is patient because he has to be-rushing things is rarely the answer and he knows this. He’s diligent, focused and considers himself a mental Olympian of sorts.

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4. The believer

When the world around him comes crumbling down and the sun seems as if it will never rise again, this man still believes-his faith is his foundation. It gets him through the good and the bad, and it never falters. He believes in the things unseen and those that many may give up on when the world turns cold: hope, morals, kindness and good will. He has a church home, or a religious main stray in his life and the fellowship refuels his engines. He’s God fearing (JESUS) and he’s pride of his strong beliefs. His moral compass is always turned in a positive direction, and he refuses to accept failure. He helps others and chooses to live his life in a way he believes others should live theirs.

5. The free spirit

Spending time with this man never gets old. He believes that life is about living and therefore is virtually immune to physical afflictions caused by stress and worry. It’s not that he doesn’t feel those emotions; he just refuses to let them consume him. He stays positive and seeks to enjoy all aspects of his life, as much as humanly as possible. He has most likely chosen a career he loves over the one that pays all the bills. Therefore he’s just as passionate about his work as he can be about feeding his cravings for new adventures. He enjoys travelling and most likely has a bucket list at least a quarter completed. He doesn’t believe in wasting time, worrying about what can’t happen and prefers to shift his focus to what can. With him, there’s never a dull moment at home, in the bedroom, or when you’re out and about. His inner light shines through and warms the spirits of those around him. He keeps life exciting-almost as if, each day he presses a refresh button.

Habits can be changed. We can defy the bad qualities we were brought up with and adapted the five qualities to make the family, society and the world a better place than we found it.

10 Lies You Tell Yourself That Keeps You From Success

liesIt is widely known that success cannot be fought for. It only takes a right attitude, patience and consistency to achieve it. The first step towards success is having a vision. On the other hand, the lack of a vision is the first step towards failure.

Right. That said and done, sometimes we find ourselves with all the qualities mentioned for success above, but achieving the real success is just a day dream. Many factors might be contributing to this happening. Maybe you’re still in the process of patience at the time you need things to fly or maybe the vision is not just clear. However, on many occasions, lack of success results from lack of taking action after conceiving a vision, and planning about it. Many think that having a vision and then planning on how to achieve the vision is the end of the journey. To the contrary, this is the beginning of the journey.

In today’s post, I have compiled a list of common lies we tell ourselves that have kept us from success every time we launch a new vision or a new goal to achieve.

10 Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us From Success

1. I Don’t Know

This is the leading lie that has frequently escorted many dreams and visions to their graveyards. In the twentieth century, it is a great shame to claim that you do not know any information concerning anything. The presence of Google and many other educative websites offer a ready stream of information on any topic. You want to make a rocket? Just Google it! You want to start a blog? Just Google it! Stop lying to yourself that you do not know.

 

2. I am Busy

This is another common lie we tell ourselves to offer excuses for failure to accomplish our visions. Remember time is created. Once you internalize this concept, you will curse your excuses right in their face!

 

3.  The Time is Not Right

So you are stuck waiting for the right time to start off our plans? Remember, time will never be opportune for you to start anything. Time is constant and life is unpredictable. The only moment under your control is “Now”. Grab the chances in your life now to make a positive change. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, it belongs to God. Don’t forget that life is a journey, and in life, the journey is the destination. Stop preparing for life , start living it. Pablo Picasso once said, “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.”

4. I have Done Enough

You feel that you have done enough and that you cannot venture to achieve any other additional thing? This is definitely a lie. As long as you can still breath, as long as your health is still in shape, you must break as many milestones as possible.

5. I am Tired

You feel exhausted and your mind supports you? This is a lie! You can never be tired to live. You can be never be tired to achieve more. Steer clear of those nude lies and get down to accomplish your dreams.

6.I Need a Mentor to Start

So lack of a mentor is the reason you haven’t ventured to achieve your dreams? This is another open lie. There are many people out there who are living your dreams. At the tap of a button on our sophisticated smart gadgets, we can easily get in touch with these people no matter the distance between us. Stop justifying your lies!

7. I don’t Have Money

So you are seated, waiting for enough money to start that business? You’ll never have enough money- that is a guarantee. Ask Warren Buffet, the second richest person in the world. He still works for money. Stop looking for what you do not have and start concentrating on what you have to achieve incredible success. Remember that with your head, you already have everything at you disposal.

8.Others Are Better Than Me

Comparing yourself to others is another lie we tell ourselves. This lie has screwed many and it will continue screwing unless you suppress it from your mind. Everybody is better and efficient in their own right. Stop comparing yourself to others because you were created an original and it will be shameful to die a photocopy.

9. I Don’t Know Where to Start

This lie is common among many people including intellectuals. So you think you are confused and totally clueless of where to start? How could that happen with a brainy human like you? It is totally a joke! Just begin somewhere and remember that life is a circle, there is no definite place to begin.

10. I am Not Good Enough

You keep telling yourself that you’re not good enough? That you are bound to fail? That you’ll never succeed? This is a lie pal! God created you to rule and subdue the universe. Get of your feet and take the steering wheel of your life. Remember you are the driver and the manual is your head. If you do not take charge of your life, no one will.

What other lies do we tell ourselves that keep us from success? Please share with me in the comment box below.

 

 

20 Quotes to Unlock Your Patience

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We all know that patience is a virtue and it is the main key to achieving success in life. We are also aware that saying is easier than doing. Elon Musk once said, “Patience is a virtue, and I’m learning patience. It’s a tough lesson.” We all yearn to keep our cool during time of adversity, pain and confusion. However, most of the times fear and worry knocks in prompting us to opt for desperate decisions that end up frustrating us more. As a result of that, I decided to come up with this list of inspirational quotes that will inspire patience within the core of your character to help you hang on a little longer. Feel free to share them with your friends.

20 Quotes to Inspire Patience

1. If you ever think about giving up, remember why you held on for so long.

2. A coward gets scared and quits. A hero gets scared but still goes on.

3. Resolve never to quit, never to give, no matter the situation.

4. The strongest people aren’t always the people who win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.

5.  Keep fighting, for very few things of worth are easy achievement.

6. None of these legends sitting on top of the world were born there. They all had to climb up the ladders of greatness.

7. Don’t always expect an instant pay for your services, if nobody will pay for your work at start, give it away for free.

8. Failure is simply an experience not a conclusion. A defeat is not final, its just an event.

9.Stand by your dream, until you make it a reality. If you can persist, you can win.

10. “When a mosquito lands on your testicles, you’ll realize that there’s always a way to solve problems without violence.”- Uncle Saka.

11. “Stand up every morning determined to succeed, for no man will hand it to you for free”.- Ore Abayomi

12. “The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.”- Paulo Coelho

13. “Patience is not simply the ability to wait- it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”- Joyce Meyer

14. “Patience and perseverance has a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.”- John Quincy Adams

15. “Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.”- Carl Jung

16. ” I believe that a trusting attitude and a patient attitude go hand in hand. You see, when you let go and learn to trust God, it releases joy in your life. And when you trust God, you’re able to be more patient.” – Joyce Meyer

17. “Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.”- Jean-Jacques Rousseau

18. “It is easier to find men who will volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience.”- Julius Caesar

19. “Have patience with all things, but first of all with yourself.”- Saint Francis de Sales

20.  “The Key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.”-Arnold H. Glasow What quotes have inspired you to be patient? Feel free to share.

Successful Goal Setting

14%2B-%2B1_3Here 2014 rolls away like the evening sun. In less that ten hours, 2015 will have successfully taken over power from 2014.
Human beings are organisms of habit . A new year means new resolutions. But hold on first ;
your 2014 resolutions never came to pass and you feel discouraged to set out any new year plans…Right?
Here is a quick fix to successful goal setting in 2015…
1. Set SMART goals
You wanted to buy that new Corolla …or start your own company …but life got in between you and your goals. 2015 demands that you set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time bound goals. Remember you cannot walk before learning how crawl.

2. Accountability Partner
They say birds of the same feather flock together. Look for an accountability partner whom you posses a similar vision and mission. Share with them your written goals and have them monitor you. Having an accountability partner raises your commitment and responsibility towards achieving your goals.
3. A Price to Pay
Punish yourself should you fail to hit your target. You failed to save the amount of money you agreed to save at the end of every month? Go without lunch for a week! That’s the only way to discipline your personality.
4. Start Small grow daily
You’ve planned to start your fitness program? Go ahead, but start small and grow steadily. You cannot run for 10 kilometers on the first debut of your fitness plan. It’ll just discourage you. Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day.
5.Don’t Give Up
You can forget everything else but not this one.
Let patience guide you. Cheap is expensive. There is no elevator to success, you must use the staircase.
6. Count Your Blessing
Along the way, discouragement pops in courtesy of the devil. Do not fret. Celebrate your achievements and thank God for the failures. Not everything is perfect but God. Do what you can and leave to God what you can’t. Happy 2015.

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